"Must Love Dogs" was the title of a movie with Diane Lane and John Cusack in which said actors meet via the Internet and, subsequently, fall in love. Not actually having seen the movie, I'm just assuming they did; otherwise, what would be the point of the movie?
"ABC News" recently did its own test of the online dating/matchmaking services. They corralled four volunteers to try and find their "mate" through the Internet services over a two-month period. The services were Match.com, eharmony.com, and two others. Three of the four participants were apparently soured on the idea of Internet dating after the experience while the other person dated someone for a few months. She is still scouring the 'net' for love.
Match.com has been advertising recently a partnership with Dr. Phil, who helps interested members of the site to find their mate and then make it last. Every year around this time Dr. Phil does something along those lines, as Feb. 14 is Valentine's Day.
Last year on his show, he had a woman choose from three potential suitors and then they had a "romantic" date backstage, with the cameras still rolling on them. I don't know about you, but that's not exactly my idea of romance or a first date. Needless to say, the two did not hit it off.
Dr. Phil also had paired up 20 couples in his audience via Match.com. At the end of the show, the couples were quizzed as to whether they thought it was a good match-up. How would they know, as the whole time since being paired they've been watching a taping of Dr. Phil? I'd be interested to see how many of those couples are still together a year later, and whether Phil will have an update on those couples this Valentine's Day episode.
My friends and I have tried online dating services and I'm not yet enamored with them. However, I have heard of several people who have met their mates through eharmony - and no, they're not the same ones billed on the site as having met through there - so clearly it does work and that's why I'm still plugging away at it.
"What kind of questions do you ask them?" asked Theresa recently. Being the more religious of my friends, she always asks me if the person is Catholic; that's not first date material, at least in my opinion.
The way eharmony actually works is you ask five multiple choice questions, then you send your list of qualities the suitor "must and can't have," then you ask three in-depth questions, then you finally get to communicate via e-mails. The questions range from what was your parents marriage like to spirituality to wanting children etc., etc., etc.
And, no, a potential suitor doesn't have to "love" dogs. In fact, "Must not love dogs" would be a better line for me. Cats... maybe, but over all I'm not a big animal lover. I can take them or leave them, generally preferring to leave them.
Though I did like the one guy who wrote under his "Can't live without" section on his basic information sheet: my two dogs - if you're allergic, start taking Benadryl!"